Parents, I know you are always trying to be the best parents for your children. By reading this article, I know you have learned most everything to expand your knowledge about parenting and that means that you are ready to become great parents for your children. And after reading this article you will know how to renew the way you communicate with your children in an excellent way.
Parents, don’t you know becoming great parents is easy? You just simply need to know the methods to communicate with your children. One easily can explain what she needs or wants by simply communicating their thoughts verbally. But, what one doesn’t know is how to make those needs and wants to be comprehended well by her correspondent. Communication is to explain ourselves in ways that correspond to our perceptions of how best to understand. Just think about this for a while, after you read the definition of communication you can easily understand that there are two sides that are taking part in communication. The one side is the one who is delivering her thoughts verbally. The other side is the one who is taking the messages in through the language pattern they receive. So, to have a good communication, you should be able to deliver your messages to your children as exactly as what you mean. Many times we speak the words in the same tongue but our communications are worlds apart. Parents, if you want to improve your communication with your children, then both of you – parents and children – should speak the same language.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) focuses on what effect the structure of language has on our internal processes. NLP discovers that if people use similar language patterns to each other, then they tend to build effective communication. But, if these language patterns were not aligned, then people difficult to understand each other. They got confused and argued. So, it’s really great that you can align your language patterns with your children using NLP meta-programs now.
Meta-programs are ways of processing information, and communicating in the moment. Parents, you can easily improve your communication with your children by simply noticing the meta-program preferences used by them.
There are 10 core meta-programs in NLP and it’s important to learn them as a whole. I will explain twoof them for you, if I may, that I found to be most useful in enhancing your communication with your children.
‘Toward’ and ‘Away From’
Few moments ago, in my hypnotherapy session, I heard a mother was communicating with her teenager daughter.
Mom: “You need to join singing lesson so you can become a shooting star in your next singing competition.”
Daughter: “No, I don’t want! I don’t want my friends teasing me. My friends will say I can’t sing that I need to join singing lesson.”
Mom: “I will register you to the singing lesson tomorrow so your friend will see you as a shooting star.”
Daughter: “I don’t want. My friend will tease me. You never listen to me!”
Nath: “Because you don’t want your friends teasing you that you can’t sing, you should take singing lesson as soon as possible before the singing competition. Don’t you think so?”
Daughter: “Oh, I think that’s a good idea. She listens to me not like you, mom, never listen to me.”
Parents, what was happening there? It was just simply her mom couldn’t understand the meta-program of her daughter. Her daughter using ‘away from’ meta program. Pay attention on her words, “I don’t want my friend teasing me.” She wants to go away from the pain of her friends teasing her. But her mom using ‘toward’ meta program. “… your friend will see you as a shooting star.” The mother were taking her toward the good outcome. They were using different meta-program. Their language patterns were not aligned. They couldn’t understand each other and as result they argued. But pay attention on words I use to speak with the daughter, “Because you don’t want your friends teasing you that you can’t sing, you should take singing lesson as soon as possible before the singing competition. Don’t you think so?” I align her ‘away from’ meta-program and she felt I understand and listened to her. Magic! Parents, I didn’t do any magic , I just simply know her meta-program and talk back to her using her own meta-program.
Match and Mismatch
Some children have a tendency to criticize in everything you say or do. I bet you’re upset about that. A mother said to me about his son, “I have a very negative son. He criticizes in everything I say or do. He would say ‘Mom, you didn’t say that.’ or ‘It’s not true what you are doing. You do differently with others.’ And my son makes me insane!”
Parents, if you are also experiencing the same situation with that mother, then I will say to you, “Your children are not negative. They are just mismatchers!” And there’s nothing wrong with them. They just point out the differences in everything. And they are learning best by doing that. If I were you and I knew your children’s meta-program is mismatch, then I will simply say, “Yes, I do differently with others because I have a unique way of response. Do you want to learn about that?” I bet your mismatcher children will be craving to catch your lesson!
On the other side, some children will learn best if they can match the new things with their knowledge. They usually follow instructions and copy the way their parents’ or teachers’ instructions. They will say, “I can’t. It’s totally diffrerent with what I know.” if they find the new things are not the same with their experiences. Parents, they aren’t not creative. They just need to match the new things with their prior experiences. If I were you and I knew your children’s meta-program are match, then I will simply say, “No, it’s same with what you know. You just need to add this two instructions.” Believe it or not, like magic, your matcher children will have the initiative and creativity to do new things now.
Parents, communicating with your children is easy, as you just simply align with their meta-programs, your skill improves. So the renewed communication with your children will naturally enhance beyond your imagination.
It’s very important for every parents – including you – to keep on learning the communication skills so you can build an excellent relationship with your children and meta-programs are only a part of communication skill that are tought in NLP. By knowing this knowledge about meta-programs, you are changing to become a great parents for yourchildren. And I know you are thinking how wonderful is the relationship between you and your children by the time you apply this new skill in your every day communication with your children now.
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